tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post5092006765029208082..comments2024-03-26T05:32:30.698-05:00Comments on Tonia Says: Review: The Fosters 5x11 "Invisible"Tonia Sayshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11406280143637741965noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post-54555901040907813952018-01-20T19:01:37.003-06:002018-01-20T19:01:37.003-06:00Yes, perhaps Stef felt like a burden, but it's...Yes, perhaps Stef felt like a burden, but it's one of those things where the line blurs because of where the content is ultimately coming from. Yes, Poppy is living with them currently, but once she and Ximena are safe and together again, I think Jesus and Poppy would be great together. And even 8-year-olds don't like being told to focus when they can't. :(<br /><br />Reading those stories now I feel like you have mentioned them to me before. They do seem familiar, if infuriating. IDK why it's okay to treat kids with disabilities like that. So glad you've never had to experience ableism from within the home. <br /><br />YES, I could relate a lot to Tara's math comments as well! It was always a huge struggle for me too (and many of us with CP, I think.)Tonia Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11406280143637741965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post-20918686604710432122018-01-19T18:04:00.838-06:002018-01-19T18:04:00.838-06:00Hi Tonia,
yes I was pleasantly surprised they use...Hi Tonia, <br />yes I was pleasantly surprised they used the term “invisible disability” . That was a great touch and really describes TBI well. I wonder if the line from Stef about Cancer was supposed to show that she felt like a burden herself at one point but maybe the messaging didn’t come across well. Forgot Poppy was in the same house now… The “focus” comments make the aide sound like he is talking to an 8 year old. :( <br /><br />I would say I just don’t talk about ableism as much as you do online but I have certainly experienced plenty of it. I have plenty of ableism horror stories from the school system if you ever want to hear, like the time an aide and a PT both blamed me for stealing something from a teacher(I NEVER did) and caused the school board to force my family to buy a replacement for said thing. 3 days after we buy the replacement the original is found in a back closet and I was cleared but the teachers always treated me like I might lie after that. If the kids did something wrong in grade school I’d get blamed. I was bullied by aides, and these aides went after my family too. So I experienced ableism from the school system and many outside sources but never within the home. So I relate to the aide situation greatly, but never related to the ableism some experience from family(like in the video of you linked here). I just couldn’t even imagine ableism from family. I know it exists, so I never meant to make anyone feel invalidated, but have no context to relate it to. <br /><br />I also have to say I really relate to the math comments. The decoding etc. I always felt my math issues were somewhat CP related as I’m sure we discussed once before. I hate word problems so much. Crip Video Productionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13892178609759325663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post-72294311343374432682018-01-19T11:26:48.556-06:002018-01-19T11:26:48.556-06:00I agree. The ableism is now existing as what it i...I agree. The ableism is now existing as what it is - Wrong - and Stef and Lena are growing because of it. They are able to hear Jesus because they accept their approach was wrong. And Jesus can (hopefully) start to trust them again (bit by bit.) <br /><br />I'm surprised to hear you had such negative experiences with aides, as you usually tend to dodge the ableism bullets. I relate to your experience so much though. My aide would also lie to my teachers, telling them (for example) that I had all my work in, when she knew I did not. (As you said, it made me look like a liar.)<br /><br />I think Jesus absolutely needs a notetaker and that should be specified in his IEP. Notes shouldnt be given to him with an ultimatum of "you need to focus." He needs them in order to be able to focus, so he doesn't have to split his attention between listening and writing.<br /><br />I love Poppy - but I would prefer they end up together once she is not living in the house as his foster sister - they've already pushed this angle with two other characters and it is gross.<br /><br />Loved Tara's insight on sensory overload, too! Some context for that situation that really helped I think!<br /><br />I just love Grace.<br /><br />I loved the support group scene and the one at the end, with Jesus and Moms. I love that Madison SAID "disability" on TV, and "invisible disability" at that.<br /><br />And yes, so glad Lena's involved in the whole Nick situation, too!Tonia Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11406280143637741965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post-86302124406463609972018-01-19T00:20:48.807-06:002018-01-19T00:20:48.807-06:00I love this review! Awesome job ladies! Continuing...I love this review! Awesome job ladies! Continuing on my thoughts: I like how the ableism is now apparently being used to actually further character development. Lena, Stef and Jesus all grew in this episode in my opinion. This time there was a story related reason for the characters like the aide behaving like an a hole because the writers are now showing us things from Jesus’s eyes which all leads up to the fantastic ending scene, instead of contrived ableism for forced emotional effect. The aide David is Terrible! I 2nd everything you said about aides. I could not stand my aides! They made me out to be a liar and manipulator in front of the teachers! The aide isn’t even helping Jesus. If I was writing slowly and falling behind it was the aide’s(para’s) job to be my scribe. I would say what my answer was and my aide would write my words exactly the way I dictated. The aide just sitting there makes the aide seem like a humiliating babysitter like you said, not an accommodation. What was the aide’s job?! If Jesus only needs a note taker another student can do that and get paid for it like at my schools (yes that is a thing now). I still think Poppy and Jesus could end up together. They just work. I liked that they showed Jesus’s fatigue and overload in school and LOVED your insights on the subject, because I get very mild sensory overload in school and it gives me an idea of what my other brain injured friends go through. Thank you so much! The sex scene between Brandon and Grace was interesting. I loved every moment of the support group scene specially the line about the brain injury being invisible because even I have to be aware of this. So relieved Lena is involved in the Nick situation!Crip Video Productionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13892178609759325663noreply@blogger.com