tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post5866933508552394230..comments2024-03-26T05:32:30.698-05:00Comments on Tonia Says: Let's Talk About Faith Part 11: LeadershipTonia Sayshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11406280143637741965noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post-4130983998487553112016-08-15T11:25:56.472-05:002016-08-15T11:25:56.472-05:00One of my favorite things about sharing these stor...One of my favorite things about sharing these stories is hearing that I am not alone in going through a certain odd situation. While I am so sorry that similar things happened to you, it makes me kind of, breathe a sigh of relief?<br /><br />I had a spare set of books as well in HS for the same reason you did. Mine were usually kept at a table at the back of the class (which I sometimes sat at, depending on the desk situation.) I remember once in 9th grade, we were doing Spanish vocabulary words with flashcards. The kid at the front of the row walked to my desk, and checked out my flashcard which happened to have an easier to pronounce word while his was more difficult. So he TOOK MINE AND RAN BACK TO HIS SEAT, LEAVING ME WITH HIS. He knew I couldn't go after him! So rude!<br /><br />Needless to say, I understand (to a point) what you're talking about. (I hope you got a textbook! Gosh!) And I wish your teacher had stood up for you.<br /><br />I am so glad I have "Madelyn" too, she is lovely <3 <br /><br />Thanks, as always, for your awesome comments <3 Tonia Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11406280143637741965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4060372686205861977.post-9017827617974138452016-08-15T11:13:14.022-05:002016-08-15T11:13:14.022-05:00Oh wow -- as always, Tonia, your posts leave me wi...Oh wow -- as always, Tonia, your posts leave me with (royal[l]y) complicated FEELINGS. <br /><br />FIRST - I love the geniune "how are you's" from the high schoolers and that they let you know how needed you were. (And the picture!!!!!! <3 <3 ) <br /><br />NEXT - LISA. Ask;dfjdds - I would say that I can't believe how she acted toward you but as I was reading, I was thinking to myself, "Why is it that Lisa sounds so familiar (other than the fact that I'd heard snippets of this story from you in the past)?" <br /><br />I KNEW A LISA TOO, TONIA. I mean, her name wasn't Lisa, but I don't think your Lisa's name was actually Lisa either. ;) But MY Lisa was a "friend" that I had in high school who also happened to be in my precalculus class in eleventh grade...and as part of my accommodations, I was given an extra set of textbooks for the classroom so that I didn't have to lug mine back and forth from home to school to class to home every single day. (I'm sure you get it, haha - but the reasoning for the accommodation was because the extra weight threw off my balance, messed with my stamina, and made me fall harder if I did happen to trip. Staying upright through crowded hallways was enough of a feat without a twenty pound backpack on my back!) Anyway, oftentimes in class, the teacher would ask us to take out our books, and I would go to the front of the room, grab the extra textbook she set aside for me, and all was fine. UNTIL *my* Lisa started taking my textbook!! She could walk faster than me so she'd jump up, run to the front of the room, and just TAKE it as if it were hers. <br /><br />I tried approaching her about it. ("Hey, Lisa? That's actually a textbook that the teacher set aside for me because I have trouble bringing my books back and forth. We can share it if you'd like though.") I thought she'd be understanding but instead -- like YOUR Lisa during the chair incident, she said, "Oh, well actually I need it because of back problems, so..." and then she continued using it! I was so shocked that I didn't know what to say. I mean, I get that people have invisible disabilities, and it's not my place to judge her back issues - but if she needed that accommodation too, she needed to go through the process of getting it herself - don't just take my accommodation and leave me in the dust! What's more - sometimes at the end of class, the teacher would ask us to work on problems, and my "friend" would grab my textbook and use it...and when I asked her if I could look on with her (IN *MY* TEXTBOOK) so that I could work on the problems too, she said NO. <br /><br />I was so shocked and uncomfortable that I never really stood up for myself to her or the teacher beyond that initial confrontation. I think our teacher felt similarly uncomfortable with it, because she never said anything either, but we all knew what was happening. <br /><br />Ugh - so I get it, friend. Your Lisa sounds so entitled and rude (seriously?? Trying to take your microphone AND your chair and then telling you to "get over it" after you make an innocent, cheerful comment???) <br /><br />I love the ending of this post, though. So awesome that you still had Madelyn - and you've got a beautiful voice, so I'm very glad you are still using that gift and that - through everything - you've never stopped singing. <3 Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16465476805924801942noreply@blogger.com